PAIN | 2007-02-23
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Bob, you make important points on this topic and brilliantly.
From the comments here, I think there are a few of us who have watched fine people ruined by malicious gossip. Tale-bearers quickly discover that they can destroy whomever they are jealous of as long as the tales are sensational and nasty enough.
I have known people who have gotten away with exactly what you are talking about. And I know far more who did nothing but a good job but who were ruined by malicious tales.
It seems to me that insiders with the right connections can get away with anything, just as you suggest.
And yet, outsiders and new people with few connections are routinely ruined by jealous people.
This is the price we pay for living in a society where almost everyone is an employee. There are too many of us fighting over the same jobs, perks, promotions, boss's praise, or corner office. We all are begging for a dollar on the same street.
The routine response to sensational gossip is: "We take these charges seriously."
The boss may know that the gossip is a habitual liar and that the victim HAD an excellent reputation; but if he were to investigate the matter and question people about it, the sensational nature of the gossip could quickly become impossible to keep awat from the public. So if the victim is new or has few connections, the easiest thing is to fire him.
Gossips know whom to attack.
I know you don't like the Bible much, but Paul (in Romans 1:28-32) makes a good point that these gossips deserve death: they destroy people's lives.
My comment here is an extension of what you say, and I also must stick up for the people who have been ruined by false charges of perversion.
Here's the formula:
The better you do your job –> the better your reputation –> the more jealousy over you –> the more gossip about you –> the more damage to your career.
Everyone wants to be popular; but popularity is costly.
Can you see the clear thinking you have inspired, Bob?
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